March 8, 2008
Dear Carolina Parents,
Tragic events such as the murder of Eve Carson are shocking and disturbing and can arouse anxiety in a number of different ways. Being away from home may be disconcerting at this time for many students. College students may feel especially vulnerable, as they become aware that if this could happen on a college campus, it could happen anywhere.
THE FOLLOWING ARE SOME SUGGESTIONS FOR HELPING YOUR STUDENT COPE WITH THEIR REACTIONS TO THIS EVENT.
1. TALK WITH YOUR STUDENT
Check in with your student and ask how they have been feeling about the situation. You may need to seek out your student and begin the conversation yourself. You might want to consider asking them if they are worried about anything, to give them an opportunity to voice any fears that they may be having. Alternatively, you may find that your student is the one to make the first contact, and that they seek more contact with you and other family members at this time. It is natural to want to connect with loved ones in this context, and it will be helpful for you to talk with your student as often as they wish to talk.
2. BE A SUPPORTIVE LISTENER
Remember that there is no right or wrong way to feel in this moment, but it is usually very helpful to express emotional responses.
Encourage your student to express any feelings they might have about the incident. Reassure your student that it is natural to have strong feelings after a tragedy.
3. REMIND YOUR STUDENT TO USE INFORMATION AND SUPPORTS ON CAMPUS AS WELL
Encourage your student to seek support from friends, faculty, and other trusted individuals on campus. It is also a good idea to remind your student to be alert to campus communications and familiar with emergency procedures on campus. If your student lives in campus housing or Granville Towers, Resident Advisors are available to be of assistance and support. We also want to reach out to students who live off campus, and recommend contacting Counseling Wellness Services at 919-966-3658 if we can be of assistance or support.
4. PROFESSIONAL ASSISTANCE IS AVAILABLE
If your student needs to talk with a professional, suggest that he or she call the Counseling and Wellness Services at 919-966-3658 to speak with a counselor.
5. CONSULTATION TO PARENTS
If you are concerned about your student and want to consult with a professional, call the Counseling and Wellness Services at
919-966-3658 to speak with a counselor. Counseling and Wellness Services will remain available for the remainder of this weekend
and throughout Spring Break next week.
Please consult our website http://campushealth.unc.edu.
Please join us in remembering Eve's parents, family and friends in your thoughts and prayers.
Sincerely,
Dr. Allen O'Barr Director of Counseling and Wellness Services Division of Student Affairs
